The man who abused me said I provoked him to it. I wonder who is provoking him now?
The man who abused me said I was not a wife. The next day he gave me a plaque proclaiming that I was the best wife in the world. He didn't understand why I didn't want to hang it on the wall. I wonder if it is still on that wall?
The man who abused me said he taught me everything I knew about raising children. It is true he taught me much. He taught me that adults are more important than children. He taught me that children wet their pants on purpose, and can always hear you calling them even if they say they didn't. He taught me that children should always obey the very first time, and should never ask why or "talk back." Do you think my children are happy that I have now learned a few things he didn't teach me?
The man who abused me said that I was a rebellious wife. I didn't think I was rebellious when I couldn't finish the laundry on time. I didn't think it was rebellious to talk to his male friends, in his presence, about subjects like prayer and evangelism. I didn't think I was rebellious when I wanted to pay the bills. I didn't think it was my rebellion that caused him to wreck the truck when I motioned for him to stop and he didn't stop because he couldn't see me motioning. I thought he should have told me to stand in another place BEFORE he started backing up. But isn't that is just what a rebellious wife would say?
The man who abused me said I was becoming more rebellious all the time. I decided to fulfill his prophecy. I rebelled against being slapped, choked and dragged through the house. I rebelled against name-calling and sex on demand. I rebelled by telling people what was happening in our house. I rebelled by not pretending that everything was okay. I rebelled by telling our children that it wasn't okay for a man to strike his wife. I rebelled by putting only my name on the new car title. I rebelled by moving into the little house we had just bought, and telling him he wasn't welcome there. I went so far in my rebellion, that I actually got a court order to prevent him from hitting, harassing or threatening me. Then I filed for divorce. Now he cannot say he has a rebellious wife, can he?
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